The Kennedy Family is considered to be one of the most politically influential family in the United States, the family is not only influential, every member of that family who had the privilege to serve in the US government served with dignity and contributed immensely to the development of the American People. In memory of Ted Kennedy – a prominent member of this great family, who recently passed on, after the 1980 failed attempt for the White House, in his conceding speech, he said, “…For all those whose cares have been our concern, the work goes on, the cause endures, the hope still lives, and the dream shall never die.” And after being an avid supporter of the then Senator Barak Obama’s bid for the White House, in their party’s 2008 Convention, his speech closed with this remark, “The work begins anew. The hope rises again. And the dream lives on.” Till the time of his death he was committed to what’s best for the American people, something passed down to him by his father and his older brother.
The unique story of the service of this family as I read through their history baffled me, as I wondered if Ted Kennedy didn’t realize the danger that he was going to be putting himself running for Presidency in a country where his brothers – serving in high government offices – were assassinated. To him, I believe the dream for a better America was greater than any of his fears; no man just wakes up with such conviction, at least not everybody comes to the realization of such compelling truth before living this world.
Their unique story is not unconnected to the decisions of the father – Joseph Kennedy Sr., he decided to train all his kids to be leaders, this was with a lot of support from his wife; they decided to bring their kids up to understand service to their people, putting a burning desire in each of them to make a mark on the sand of time. Your background has a lot to do with you future, if it is great then check the background, only few people have such unconnected backgrounds and their stories are unique for their decisions to break off status-qua.
This is the original intent of the family – dominion and fruitfulness; since I gained the consciousness of what marriage and family is, every time I get the opportunity to discuss with intending couples, I try to extract from our discussion the platform on which they intend to build their new family; in many cases they don’t have such compelling reason to want to be together, asides, I thought it was high time I got married and our parts crossed and she thought so to, then we decided to come forth with it, our families loved the idea, so here we are. To them as long as the needs of the family can be dealt with, food is on the table, and the family is comfortable, they are satisfied. Too bad, while the hundreds around them seem not to be able to get a footing in life, they just consider what’s best for themselves; this is why we are where we are as a nation – a state of distress and confusion, mismanagement giving rise to poverty and stunted growth and development in our economy, the result of good men deciding to do nothing.
This trend has been passed from the older generation down, a fear to do the extra, that make our ordinary efforts, extra-ordinary; many say accomplishing extra-ordinary feats in career or public service is function of money, others say it’s education, well Sonya Carson – mother of Curtis and Ben Carson, didn’t have any of the two, but she trained her sons to greatness; what’s the personal worth of the President of the United States or what’s his background like? All we know is that his mother put long lasting life principles into him and his siblings, and on this platform they chose their careers and excelled in their chosen path.
Many times when we talk about the development in our nation in comparison with other nation, we are tempted to dismiss it, by saying the conditions are different, but we are quick to forget that the information we have at our disposal today is so much that all we need is just the will to make a difference, and the result of this move for change is geometrical. This will not start with just one man, that’s why I write, speak and share my thought, some others do what they can do in their capacities and we all working towards the same goal we live to celebrate a better Nigeria.
The family platform starts on the basis of marriage, since I gained consciousness of my existence, the was thing yet very rampant I have experienced in life is family crisis, there are two ways people deal with this problem, so because they consider themselves Christian, and because it is accepted that once married forever married “till death do us part” they choose to endure the marriages with the numerous crisis, others choose to separate and possibly remarry. A number of times if the new marriage is built on the same platform as the first, the end result are pretty same. The reasons we experience such is not farfetched, the ideologies of many people about family issues is just too primitive.
In this discussion, I am not unaware of the adverse conditions of life that we might face in our different quarters, I am very aware of the possible adversities in life, they are not illusive to me and I will not stand here to say that at one time or the other I did not stand face to face with adversity, or I’m not prepared to face trying situations in the future, I consider these life circumstances and acknowledge them, but much important to me is the truth about conception, the sperm that fertilized the egg that yield the baby “you” faced adversity, because it was one of the million that came out, it was just fortunate, I guess by the virtue of hard work to it out ran its opponents to ensure that it is the man with the prize.
To me this is the story of life, we are bound to face challenging situation, we are bound to face trails, but the strength of our character is seen in our willingness to struggle instead of settle for fate, to fight instead of cringe, to make a mark instead of settling for mediocrity. This is what makes the difference.
Therefore, it beats my imagination to see men who are full men wait till they are told that it’s time to start a family before they begin to consider the prospects, I’m not saying they don’t have girlfriends or the likes, they do but settling down is not just one thing that comes to their head. The thoughts of the imminent reality of raise a family is clear to them but the purpose for which a family is raised seems to elude these folks, and the just live with the mentality that they’ll reproduce kids, train the kids to be like them or better than them, then die one day; And unfortunately, these men are the same people that must get married to some women, women who just believe that as long as he is rich, doesn’t bite his nails, handsome, talks well without bad breathe, he’s the man.
When such people hook up, you can only imagine what happens in their homes, when all the spark of superficiality is gone and the wealth doesn’t really speak much to the inner craving for companionship, when the spirituality of the Christian doesn’t make much difference in times of differences, and the beauty fade, sometimes the children delay; you’ll see the true colors of these folks, you’ll witness the result of a faulty foundation and the extent to which things can deteriorate is unimaginable.
In raising a family, compatibility of the partners is very important, I’m so aware of the concepts of arranged marriages, but in this age and time whether one is faced with that reality or not it is important to understand that the selection of a right partner is what makes your future what you hoped for. When the wrong choice is made at this point, the result is catastrophic, unless a conscious decision from the partners to work things out despite the differences, this is not same with enduring a marriage – this is taking conscious steps to understand the purpose of the family and learn what it takes to build one.
If the family must put a mark on the sand of time, the partners that make up the family must first be willing to make the mark on the sand of time as individuals, as my girlfriend will say, “I don’t subscribe with the idea that we are coming together to ‘complete’ each other, instead I believe we come together to ‘complement’ each other.” After analyzing the statics and dynamics of this statement, I subscribed to this idea too, because it’s one truth that will make a lot of difference in your approach to life. In the next part, I’ll talk more on this and the reasons why the partners in a family relationship are the most important parties in the union. Till then go make the world a better place, in the ways you can.
The Purpose and Power of the Family – Part 2
Posted by davidluiz in Family, Old files, Relationships and Family
The unique story of the service of this family as I read through their history baffled me, as I wondered if Ted Kennedy didn’t realize the danger that he was going to be putting himself running for Presidency in a country where his brothers – serving in high government offices – were assassinated. To him, I believe the dream for a better America was greater than any of his fears; no man just wakes up with such conviction, at least not everybody comes to the realization of such compelling truth before living this world.
Their unique story is not unconnected to the decisions of the father – Joseph Kennedy Sr., he decided to train all his kids to be leaders, this was with a lot of support from his wife; they decided to bring their kids up to understand service to their people, putting a burning desire in each of them to make a mark on the sand of time. Your background has a lot to do with you future, if it is great then check the background, only few people have such unconnected backgrounds and their stories are unique for their decisions to break off status-qua.
This is the original intent of the family – dominion and fruitfulness; since I gained the consciousness of what marriage and family is, every time I get the opportunity to discuss with intending couples, I try to extract from our discussion the platform on which they intend to build their new family; in many cases they don’t have such compelling reason to want to be together, asides, I thought it was high time I got married and our parts crossed and she thought so to, then we decided to come forth with it, our families loved the idea, so here we are. To them as long as the needs of the family can be dealt with, food is on the table, and the family is comfortable, they are satisfied. Too bad, while the hundreds around them seem not to be able to get a footing in life, they just consider what’s best for themselves; this is why we are where we are as a nation – a state of distress and confusion, mismanagement giving rise to poverty and stunted growth and development in our economy, the result of good men deciding to do nothing.
This trend has been passed from the older generation down, a fear to do the extra, that make our ordinary efforts, extra-ordinary; many say accomplishing extra-ordinary feats in career or public service is function of money, others say it’s education, well Sonya Carson – mother of Curtis and Ben Carson, didn’t have any of the two, but she trained her sons to greatness; what’s the personal worth of the President of the United States or what’s his background like? All we know is that his mother put long lasting life principles into him and his siblings, and on this platform they chose their careers and excelled in their chosen path.
Many times when we talk about the development in our nation in comparison with other nation, we are tempted to dismiss it, by saying the conditions are different, but we are quick to forget that the information we have at our disposal today is so much that all we need is just the will to make a difference, and the result of this move for change is geometrical. This will not start with just one man, that’s why I write, speak and share my thought, some others do what they can do in their capacities and we all working towards the same goal we live to celebrate a better Nigeria.
The family platform starts on the basis of marriage, since I gained consciousness of my existence, the was thing yet very rampant I have experienced in life is family crisis, there are two ways people deal with this problem, so because they consider themselves Christian, and because it is accepted that once married forever married “till death do us part” they choose to endure the marriages with the numerous crisis, others choose to separate and possibly remarry. A number of times if the new marriage is built on the same platform as the first, the end result are pretty same. The reasons we experience such is not farfetched, the ideologies of many people about family issues is just too primitive.
In this discussion, I am not unaware of the adverse conditions of life that we might face in our different quarters, I am very aware of the possible adversities in life, they are not illusive to me and I will not stand here to say that at one time or the other I did not stand face to face with adversity, or I’m not prepared to face trying situations in the future, I consider these life circumstances and acknowledge them, but much important to me is the truth about conception, the sperm that fertilized the egg that yield the baby “you” faced adversity, because it was one of the million that came out, it was just fortunate, I guess by the virtue of hard work to it out ran its opponents to ensure that it is the man with the prize.
To me this is the story of life, we are bound to face challenging situation, we are bound to face trails, but the strength of our character is seen in our willingness to struggle instead of settle for fate, to fight instead of cringe, to make a mark instead of settling for mediocrity. This is what makes the difference.
Therefore, it beats my imagination to see men who are full men wait till they are told that it’s time to start a family before they begin to consider the prospects, I’m not saying they don’t have girlfriends or the likes, they do but settling down is not just one thing that comes to their head. The thoughts of the imminent reality of raise a family is clear to them but the purpose for which a family is raised seems to elude these folks, and the just live with the mentality that they’ll reproduce kids, train the kids to be like them or better than them, then die one day; And unfortunately, these men are the same people that must get married to some women, women who just believe that as long as he is rich, doesn’t bite his nails, handsome, talks well without bad breathe, he’s the man.
When such people hook up, you can only imagine what happens in their homes, when all the spark of superficiality is gone and the wealth doesn’t really speak much to the inner craving for companionship, when the spirituality of the Christian doesn’t make much difference in times of differences, and the beauty fade, sometimes the children delay; you’ll see the true colors of these folks, you’ll witness the result of a faulty foundation and the extent to which things can deteriorate is unimaginable.
In raising a family, compatibility of the partners is very important, I’m so aware of the concepts of arranged marriages, but in this age and time whether one is faced with that reality or not it is important to understand that the selection of a right partner is what makes your future what you hoped for. When the wrong choice is made at this point, the result is catastrophic, unless a conscious decision from the partners to work things out despite the differences, this is not same with enduring a marriage – this is taking conscious steps to understand the purpose of the family and learn what it takes to build one.
If the family must put a mark on the sand of time, the partners that make up the family must first be willing to make the mark on the sand of time as individuals, as my girlfriend will say, “I don’t subscribe with the idea that we are coming together to ‘complete’ each other, instead I believe we come together to ‘complement’ each other.” After analyzing the statics and dynamics of this statement, I subscribed to this idea too, because it’s one truth that will make a lot of difference in your approach to life. In the next part, I’ll talk more on this and the reasons why the partners in a family relationship are the most important parties in the union. Till then go make the world a better place, in the ways you can.